It’s amazing what you can learn about yourself when life gets messy.
My son Troy and I were once on a camping trip, filled with horse rides and hikes through the woods. But one night, just as we were about to hit the sack, I noticed Troy looking a little green. When I asked him how he felt, he said, “Not so good.”
That was just the beginning. Later, at about two in the morning, I awoke to the sound of Trent retching. The worst part was that he was missing the bag I’d provided for just such an emergency. Unfortunately, when I pointed my flashlight in his direction and called out to him, my tone was filled more with agitation than concern.
That night taught me something. I handle big disasters pretty well, but I’m not always so smooth with small problems. A bad grade. A dirty room. Vomit in the tent.
Maybe that’s why a little messiness from time to time is good for me. It brings me face to face with my own weakness. And as the Apostle Paul reminds us in 2 Corinthians 12:10, recognizing our need is the first step toward discovering new strength.
Like you, I like my life to be as ordered and in control as possible, but I’m learning to say, “Bless this mess!”

Jim Daly is a husband, father and President of Focus on the Family and host of its National Radio Hall of Fame broadcast. His blog, Daly Focus, is full of timely commentary and wisdom designed to help you navigate and understand today’s culture. His latest book is Marriage Done Right.
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